Marilyn and Irvin write so luminously I feel I have lived that period of time alongside them ... I was deeply touched by Irvin's humility in acknowledging that we are simply unprepared for the great encounter with death, or for the loss of a soul-mate, no matter how closely we observe these stories as professionals. This book is illuminating and vivid, a beautiful examination of the consolation of a life well-lived, and a beacon of hope to all of us who will be bereaved. And of course, it is an exposition of how we who are mortal learn to live with that very truth about ourselves Kathryn Mannix, Sunday Times bestselling author of WITH THE END IN MIND