IQ + EQ = SUCCESS. Emotional Intelligence is being smarter with feelings. EQ = Self Awareness + Self Leadership + Social Awareness + Relationship Management. The first step in attaining emotional intelligence is in becoming emotionally literate. One great characteristic of people who have attained emotional intelligence is that they are responsible for what they feel and they use their feelings to help them make wise decisions. Knowing and understanding own feelings is different from understanding the feelings of others, but both have to work together. In order to attain emotional intelligence, it is important to understand what other people are feeling and respect. It also important that everyone should empathize with other people and accept feelings of others.