How can you love your kids--and still set limits? Use Elizabeth Crary's "STAR parenting" concept: -Stop and focus; -Think of ideas; -Act effectively; and -Review, revise and reward. -This practical guide is full of examples that show how you can use this problem-solving process--every day, in every kind of parenting situation. Crary also describes typical developmental stages, so you're sure your expectations for your kids are realistic. She clarifies the difference between normal behavior and defiance and irresponsibility.