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Combining a practical approach to the study of marriage and family life with sociological theory and research citations, this text focuses on the theme of enhancing intimacy within marriage and family. It provides a comprehensive overview of the progression from dating to marriage and family.
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Combining a practical approach to the study of marriage and family life with sociological theory and research citations, this text focuses on the theme of enhancing intimacy within marriage and family. It provides a comprehensive overview of the progression from dating to marriage and family.
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- Verlag: McGraw Hill LLC
- 6th edition
- Seitenzahl: 469
- Erscheinungstermin: Februar 2006
- Englisch
- Abmessung: 252mm x 202mm x 17mm
- Gewicht: 894g
- ISBN-13: 9780073271330
- ISBN-10: 0073271330
- Artikelnr.: 21012534
- Herstellerkennzeichnung
- Libri GmbH
- Europaallee 1
- 36244 Bad Hersfeld
- 06621 890
- Verlag: McGraw Hill LLC
- 6th edition
- Seitenzahl: 469
- Erscheinungstermin: Februar 2006
- Englisch
- Abmessung: 252mm x 202mm x 17mm
- Gewicht: 894g
- ISBN-13: 9780073271330
- ISBN-10: 0073271330
- Artikelnr.: 21012534
- Herstellerkennzeichnung
- Libri GmbH
- Europaallee 1
- 36244 Bad Hersfeld
- 06621 890
Robert H. Lauer is currently Research Professor at Alliant International University in San Diego, California. He received his Ph.D. in Sociology from Washington University, St. Louis. He has taught at Washington University, Southern Illinois University at Edwardsville, and Alliant International University. He has authored or co-authored 22 books and numerous journal articles. He is listed in: American Men and Women of Science, Contemporary Authors, Who's Who in the Midwest, Who's Who in the West, International Authors and Writer's Who's Who, and Dictionary of International Biography. He has been selected numerous times as Outstanding Teacher by Sociology students. His special interests are marriage and family, social problems, and social psychology.
PART l. THE CONTEXT OF INTIMACY l. AMERICAN MYTHS AND DREAMS Learning Objectives Myths About Family Life We've Lost the Extended Family Opposites Attract People Marry Because They Love Each Other Having Children Increases Marital Satisfaction A Good Sex Life Is the Best Predictor of Marital Satisfaction Happily Married People Don
t Have Conflict Half of All Marriages End In Divorce The Dangers of Myths Changing Patterns of Intimate Relationships Premarital Sex Births to Unmarried Women Living Alone COMPARISON Asian Women Are Marrying at a Later Age Cohabitation Delayed Marriage Birth Rates Household Size Employed Mothers PERSONAL
I Had to Go to Work
Divorce A Concluding Note On Changing Patterns The Family in Utopia The Family in Utopian Writings The Family in Utopian Communities What Works Best? What Do We Want? What Do We Need? The Great Debate Changes in Traditional Arrangements What Do You Think? Me or We? Strengths and Benefits of Marriage and Family 'Til Death? A Note On Theory Systems Theory Exchange Theory Symbolic Interaction Theory Conflict Theory Theory and Intimacy Summary Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION American Myths and Dreams 2. DIVERSITY IN FAMILIES Learning Objectives The Variability of Family Life Variations Between Societies Variations Within Societies The Single-Parent Family Extent of Single-Parent Families Challenges of the Single-Parent Family COMPARISON Single Parents In Iceland The Successful Single-Parent Family PERSONAL
I Chose To Do It Alone
Racial and Ethnic Minority Families The African-American Family The Hispanic Family The Asian-American Family The Interracial Family Families With Same-Sex Parents What Do You Think? Problems In Gay and Lesbian Families Intimacy In the Gay and Lesbian Family Long-Term Gay and Lesbian Relationships Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Diversity in Families 3. GENDER ROLES: FOUNDATION FOR INTIMACY Learning Objectives Men and Women: How Do They Differ? Men and Women: Some Commonalities Gender Differences Sex, Gender, Gender Role, and Gender-Role Orientation Gender Roles Gender-Role Orientation What Do You Think? Gender Roles: Nature Or Nurture? How Much Is Biological? The Importance Of Nurture Socialization and Gender-Role Orientation COMPARISON Inuit Youth Learn To Be Males and Females Changing Gender Roles and Orientations Changing Patterns Lingering Traditionalism Gender-Role Orientation: What Difference Does It Make? Communication Self-Concept Mental Health Gender-Role Orientation and Intimacy PERSONAL
We Worked It Out
Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Gender Roles: Foundation for Intimacy 4. SEXUALITY Learning Objectives The Meaning of Sex Heterosexuality and Homosexuality Sex As Physical: The Response Cycle Sex As Social Behavior Unwanted and Coerced Sex Sex and Intimate Relationships PERSONAL Sex and the Search for Intimacy Teenage Sex Extent of Sex Among Teenagers Unwanted Pregnancy and Early Childbearing Contraception Amount and Kinds of Contraceptive Use Who Uses Contraceptives Abortion What Do You Think? Premarital Sex The Double Standard Changing Attitudes Changing Behavior Sex In Marriage Sexual Practices in Marriage Sexual Satisfaction and Marital Satisfaction Changes in Marital Sex Over the Lifespan Extramarital Sex Why Extramarital Sex? Some Consequences of Extramarital Sex Sexual Diseases and Dysfunctions Sexual Diseases Sexual Dysfunctions Inhibited Sexual Desire Safe Sex COMPARISON Unsafe Sex In Lesotho Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Sexuality PART 2. SEEKING INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS 5. GETTING TO KNOW SOMEONE ELSE Learning Objectives We Are Social Creatures Loneliness Fulfillment Through Intimacy PERSONAL Searching for Intimacy The Nature of Intimacy The Meaning of Intimacy Intimacy as an Exchange Relationship Intimacy as Self-Sustaining Meeting and Getting to Know Others First Impressions What Do You Think? What Attracts? COMPARISON Mexican and United States Teens Portray Their Ideals About the Opposite Sex Developing a Relationship First Stage: Initial Meeting and Awareness Second Stage: The Selection Process Third Stage: Developing Intimacy Fourth Stage: Maintaining or Dissolving the Relationship Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Getting to Know Someone Else 6. GETTING INVOLVED Learning Objectives Hanging Out and Hooking Up Dating Finding People To Date Selecting a Dating Partner Functions of Dating Patterns of Dating COMPARISON Commitment to Dating Partners in theU.S. and Taiwan Dating Problems Moving Beyond Dating Moving Into a More Permanent Relationship Engagement Cohabitation What Do You Think? Who Cohabits? Patterns of Cohabitation Cohabitation Compared to Marriage Cohabitation as a Preparation for Marriage Breaking Up Who Breaks Up? Responding to Deterioration PERSONAL The Birth, Life, and Death of a Relationship Staying Single Why People Are Single Intimacy and Life Satisfaction Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Getting Involved 7. Falling In Love Learning Objectives The Meaning of Love When You Fall In Love The Process of Falling How Can You Tell If It's Love? PERSONAL Falling in Love
Twice Passionate Versus Companionate Love The Emergence of Passionate Love The Experience of Passionate Love From Passionate Love To Companionate Love What Do You Think? Loving and Liking Rubin's Love Scale Love and Friendship A Triangular Theory of Love Styles of Loving Six Types of Lovers Implications of Differing Styles of Loving Love Threatened--Jealousy Who Is Most Jealous? COMPARISON Jealousy Among the Italians, Dutch, and New Guineans Situations That Provoke Jealousy Consequences of Jealousy Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Falling in Love 8. Selecting A Life Partner Learning Objectives Is There a Best Way To Select a Life Partner? What We Expect In a Life Partner COMPARISON Looking for a Mate in India Qualities Desired in a Life Partner Exchange and Equity Narrowing the Field: Assortative Mating Life Partner Selection as a Filtering Process Age Ethnic Background Race Religion Education Personality And So Forth Why Assortative Mating? Predictors of Marital Satisfaction Timing PERSONAL Should I Marry My Baby
s Father? Equity What Do You Think? Communication PREPARE: A Multi-Factor Approach A Final Caution Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Selecting a Life Partner PART 3. THE INTIMATE COUPLE 9. GETTING MARRIED Learning Objectives What Are Your Chances of Getting Married? Marital Status of the Population Who Does, and Doesn't, Marry? Why Do People Marry? The Need for Intimacy Social Expectations What Do You Think? Social Ideals and Personal Fulfillment Desire for Children Marriage as a Practical Solution Types of Marriage Classified by Lifestyles Classified by Nature of the Relationships COMPARISON Types of Marriage in Togo Expectations Our Private Contracts Role Expectations Negotiation: Changing Personal Contracts The Marriage Contract: Clarifying Expectations Adjusting To Marriage His Marriage and Her Marriage Starting With Two Strikes Establishing Equity and Consensus Adjustment and In-Law Relationships First Year Changes PERSONAL In-Laws: The Good and the Bad Commitment The Meaning of Commitment The Role of Commitment Building Commitment Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Getting Married 10. THE CHALLENGE OF COMMUNICATION Learning Objectives The Nature of Communication Verbal Communication Nonverbal Communication Communication as an Interaction Process A Discussion About Sex Communication Static Communicating Feelings Listening Styles of Poor Listening Improving Listening Skills Impediments To Communication Destructive Messages What Do You Think? Gender Differences As An Impediment Why Husbands and Wives Don't Talk To Each Other Satisfying Communication PERSONAL All the Talk Was Useless Communication, Marital Satisfaction, and Intimacy Everyday Conversations Self-Disclosure COMPARISON Couple Talk in Brisbane and Munich Other Aspects of Communication Improving Communication Skills Rules Practice Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION The Challenge of Communication 11. POWER AND CONFLICT IN MARRIAGE Learning Objectives Power In Marriage The Meaning of Power Why Is Power Important? Sources of Power COMPARISON The Power of Egyptian Husbands and Wives What Do You Think? Marriage as a Power Struggle Types of Power Interaction Conflict In Marriage The Positive Functions of Conflict The Negative Consequences of Severe Conflict What People Fight About Sources of Tension Styles of Conflict Good Fighting Maintain Your Perspective PERSONAL Learning How to Fight Develop Tension Outlets Avoid Festering Resentment Be Sensitive To Timing Communicate Without Ceasing Be Flexible, Willing To Compromise Use Conflict To Attack Problems, Not Your Spouse Keep Loving While You Are Fighting Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Power and Conflict in Marriage l2. Work And Home Learning Objectives His Work and Her Work Changing P atterns of Working Women In the Labor Force Married Women and Employment Types of Dual-Career Families Why Women Work Outside the Home Home Versus the Workplace Challenges of Dual-Income Families More Or Less Equal? Who's Minding The House? COMPARISONS Household Tasks and Equity in China Children and the Challenge of Child Care The Costs of Both Parents Working What Do You Think? Time Management Role Negotiation Satisfactions of Dual-Income Families Marital Satisfaction Other Benefits PERSONAL Employed and Married, and Loving Both Work and Well-Being Life Satisfaction Mental and Physical Health Coping Strategies Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key terms INTERNET CONNECTION Work and Home PART 4. INTIMACY IN FAMILIES l3. BECOMING A PARENT Learning Objectives Changing Patterns of Child-Bearing Birth Rates Preferences For Size and Sex To Bear Or Not To Bear Why People Want To Have Children The Child-Free Option PERSONAL To Be a Parent? The Agonies of the Decision Involuntary Childlessness Infertility Coping With Infertility Options For the Infertile Artificial Insemination In Vitro Fertilization Surrogate Mothers Adoption What Do You Think? Children and the Quality of Life The Stresses of Raising Children Children and Marital Satisfaction The Satisfactions of Raising Children Parenting: Her Experience and His Experience Her Experience His Experience COMPARISONS On the Playground in France, Germany, and Italy Parenting and the Well-Being of Children Styles of Parenting Types of Discipline Parental Behavior and Children
s Adjustment Parental Behavior and Self-Esteem A Final Note: Is Older Better In Parenting? Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Becoming a Parent 14. THE FAMILY LIFE CYCLE Learning Objectives The Family Life Cycle The Meaning of the Family Life Cycle What Changes Over the Family LIfe Cycle? Social Change and the Family Life Cycle The Newly Married: A Family Without Children What Do You Think? The Family With Young Children The Family At Midlife: Adolescents and Aging Parents The Needs of Adolescents Parent-Child Problems Emerging Adulthood Caring For Aging Parents The Couples' Midlife Concerns Satisfaction at Midlife The Launching and Empty Nest Stage The Couple Together Again PERSONAL An Empty-Nest High Grandparenthood The Aging Family Retirement Marital Relations COMPARISON Caring for Elderly Family Members on Malo Other Relationships Death of a Spouse Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION The Family Life Cycle PART 5. CHALLENGES TO INTIMACY 15. FAMILY CRISES Learning Objectives Sources of Family Crises Stress and Crisis Stressor Events Abuse of Alcohol and Other Drugs In the Family Extent of Drug Abuse Drug Abuse and the Quality of Family Life Family Problems and Drug Abuse Violence In Families The Extent of Violence Child Abuse Incest Spouse Abuse What Do You Think? Parent Abuse COMPARISON Intimate Partner Abuse in Canada Consequences of Abuse Reacting To Crises Coping Patterns Ineffective Coping Patterns The Foundation of Effective Coping Tools For Effective Coping PERSONAL Things Were Terribly Still Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Family Crisis 16. SEPARATION AND DIVORCE Learning Objectives Divorce Trends Divorce Rates Changing Grounds For Divorce What Do You Think? The Process of Uncoupling Toward Marital Dissolution The Six Stations of Divorce Causes and Correlates of Divorce Sociodemographic Factors Interpersonal Factors COMPARISONS Divorce, Japanese Style Effects of Divorce on Spouses/Parents Positive Outcomes Health Problems Financial Problems PERSONAL My Whole World Was Lost Interaction Between Former Spouses Effects of Divorce On Children Short-Term Effects Long-Term Effects Gender Differences Child Custody Coping With the Disruption Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Separation and Divorce 17. REMARRIAGE AND STEPFAMILIES Learning Objectives Types and Number of Remarriages and Stepfamilies Types of Remarried Couples Demographics of Remarriage and Stepfamilies Deja Vu: Dating and Mate Selection Revisited Why Remarry? Issues In Recoupling The Myths of Remarriage The Challenges of Remarriage PERSONAL
My Husband's First Wife Is Straining My Marriage
The Quality of Remarried Life COMPARISONS Repartnering in Australia Living In a Stepfamily What Do You Think? The Stepfamily Life Cycle The Structure of the Stepfamily Stepparents and Stepchildren Family Functioning Making It Work Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Remarriage and Stepfamilies Glossary References Credits Index
t Have Conflict Half of All Marriages End In Divorce The Dangers of Myths Changing Patterns of Intimate Relationships Premarital Sex Births to Unmarried Women Living Alone COMPARISON Asian Women Are Marrying at a Later Age Cohabitation Delayed Marriage Birth Rates Household Size Employed Mothers PERSONAL
I Had to Go to Work
Divorce A Concluding Note On Changing Patterns The Family in Utopia The Family in Utopian Writings The Family in Utopian Communities What Works Best? What Do We Want? What Do We Need? The Great Debate Changes in Traditional Arrangements What Do You Think? Me or We? Strengths and Benefits of Marriage and Family 'Til Death? A Note On Theory Systems Theory Exchange Theory Symbolic Interaction Theory Conflict Theory Theory and Intimacy Summary Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION American Myths and Dreams 2. DIVERSITY IN FAMILIES Learning Objectives The Variability of Family Life Variations Between Societies Variations Within Societies The Single-Parent Family Extent of Single-Parent Families Challenges of the Single-Parent Family COMPARISON Single Parents In Iceland The Successful Single-Parent Family PERSONAL
I Chose To Do It Alone
Racial and Ethnic Minority Families The African-American Family The Hispanic Family The Asian-American Family The Interracial Family Families With Same-Sex Parents What Do You Think? Problems In Gay and Lesbian Families Intimacy In the Gay and Lesbian Family Long-Term Gay and Lesbian Relationships Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Diversity in Families 3. GENDER ROLES: FOUNDATION FOR INTIMACY Learning Objectives Men and Women: How Do They Differ? Men and Women: Some Commonalities Gender Differences Sex, Gender, Gender Role, and Gender-Role Orientation Gender Roles Gender-Role Orientation What Do You Think? Gender Roles: Nature Or Nurture? How Much Is Biological? The Importance Of Nurture Socialization and Gender-Role Orientation COMPARISON Inuit Youth Learn To Be Males and Females Changing Gender Roles and Orientations Changing Patterns Lingering Traditionalism Gender-Role Orientation: What Difference Does It Make? Communication Self-Concept Mental Health Gender-Role Orientation and Intimacy PERSONAL
We Worked It Out
Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Gender Roles: Foundation for Intimacy 4. SEXUALITY Learning Objectives The Meaning of Sex Heterosexuality and Homosexuality Sex As Physical: The Response Cycle Sex As Social Behavior Unwanted and Coerced Sex Sex and Intimate Relationships PERSONAL Sex and the Search for Intimacy Teenage Sex Extent of Sex Among Teenagers Unwanted Pregnancy and Early Childbearing Contraception Amount and Kinds of Contraceptive Use Who Uses Contraceptives Abortion What Do You Think? Premarital Sex The Double Standard Changing Attitudes Changing Behavior Sex In Marriage Sexual Practices in Marriage Sexual Satisfaction and Marital Satisfaction Changes in Marital Sex Over the Lifespan Extramarital Sex Why Extramarital Sex? Some Consequences of Extramarital Sex Sexual Diseases and Dysfunctions Sexual Diseases Sexual Dysfunctions Inhibited Sexual Desire Safe Sex COMPARISON Unsafe Sex In Lesotho Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Sexuality PART 2. SEEKING INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS 5. GETTING TO KNOW SOMEONE ELSE Learning Objectives We Are Social Creatures Loneliness Fulfillment Through Intimacy PERSONAL Searching for Intimacy The Nature of Intimacy The Meaning of Intimacy Intimacy as an Exchange Relationship Intimacy as Self-Sustaining Meeting and Getting to Know Others First Impressions What Do You Think? What Attracts? COMPARISON Mexican and United States Teens Portray Their Ideals About the Opposite Sex Developing a Relationship First Stage: Initial Meeting and Awareness Second Stage: The Selection Process Third Stage: Developing Intimacy Fourth Stage: Maintaining or Dissolving the Relationship Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Getting to Know Someone Else 6. GETTING INVOLVED Learning Objectives Hanging Out and Hooking Up Dating Finding People To Date Selecting a Dating Partner Functions of Dating Patterns of Dating COMPARISON Commitment to Dating Partners in theU.S. and Taiwan Dating Problems Moving Beyond Dating Moving Into a More Permanent Relationship Engagement Cohabitation What Do You Think? Who Cohabits? Patterns of Cohabitation Cohabitation Compared to Marriage Cohabitation as a Preparation for Marriage Breaking Up Who Breaks Up? Responding to Deterioration PERSONAL The Birth, Life, and Death of a Relationship Staying Single Why People Are Single Intimacy and Life Satisfaction Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Getting Involved 7. Falling In Love Learning Objectives The Meaning of Love When You Fall In Love The Process of Falling How Can You Tell If It's Love? PERSONAL Falling in Love
Twice Passionate Versus Companionate Love The Emergence of Passionate Love The Experience of Passionate Love From Passionate Love To Companionate Love What Do You Think? Loving and Liking Rubin's Love Scale Love and Friendship A Triangular Theory of Love Styles of Loving Six Types of Lovers Implications of Differing Styles of Loving Love Threatened--Jealousy Who Is Most Jealous? COMPARISON Jealousy Among the Italians, Dutch, and New Guineans Situations That Provoke Jealousy Consequences of Jealousy Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Falling in Love 8. Selecting A Life Partner Learning Objectives Is There a Best Way To Select a Life Partner? What We Expect In a Life Partner COMPARISON Looking for a Mate in India Qualities Desired in a Life Partner Exchange and Equity Narrowing the Field: Assortative Mating Life Partner Selection as a Filtering Process Age Ethnic Background Race Religion Education Personality And So Forth Why Assortative Mating? Predictors of Marital Satisfaction Timing PERSONAL Should I Marry My Baby
s Father? Equity What Do You Think? Communication PREPARE: A Multi-Factor Approach A Final Caution Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Selecting a Life Partner PART 3. THE INTIMATE COUPLE 9. GETTING MARRIED Learning Objectives What Are Your Chances of Getting Married? Marital Status of the Population Who Does, and Doesn't, Marry? Why Do People Marry? The Need for Intimacy Social Expectations What Do You Think? Social Ideals and Personal Fulfillment Desire for Children Marriage as a Practical Solution Types of Marriage Classified by Lifestyles Classified by Nature of the Relationships COMPARISON Types of Marriage in Togo Expectations Our Private Contracts Role Expectations Negotiation: Changing Personal Contracts The Marriage Contract: Clarifying Expectations Adjusting To Marriage His Marriage and Her Marriage Starting With Two Strikes Establishing Equity and Consensus Adjustment and In-Law Relationships First Year Changes PERSONAL In-Laws: The Good and the Bad Commitment The Meaning of Commitment The Role of Commitment Building Commitment Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Getting Married 10. THE CHALLENGE OF COMMUNICATION Learning Objectives The Nature of Communication Verbal Communication Nonverbal Communication Communication as an Interaction Process A Discussion About Sex Communication Static Communicating Feelings Listening Styles of Poor Listening Improving Listening Skills Impediments To Communication Destructive Messages What Do You Think? Gender Differences As An Impediment Why Husbands and Wives Don't Talk To Each Other Satisfying Communication PERSONAL All the Talk Was Useless Communication, Marital Satisfaction, and Intimacy Everyday Conversations Self-Disclosure COMPARISON Couple Talk in Brisbane and Munich Other Aspects of Communication Improving Communication Skills Rules Practice Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION The Challenge of Communication 11. POWER AND CONFLICT IN MARRIAGE Learning Objectives Power In Marriage The Meaning of Power Why Is Power Important? Sources of Power COMPARISON The Power of Egyptian Husbands and Wives What Do You Think? Marriage as a Power Struggle Types of Power Interaction Conflict In Marriage The Positive Functions of Conflict The Negative Consequences of Severe Conflict What People Fight About Sources of Tension Styles of Conflict Good Fighting Maintain Your Perspective PERSONAL Learning How to Fight Develop Tension Outlets Avoid Festering Resentment Be Sensitive To Timing Communicate Without Ceasing Be Flexible, Willing To Compromise Use Conflict To Attack Problems, Not Your Spouse Keep Loving While You Are Fighting Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Power and Conflict in Marriage l2. Work And Home Learning Objectives His Work and Her Work Changing P atterns of Working Women In the Labor Force Married Women and Employment Types of Dual-Career Families Why Women Work Outside the Home Home Versus the Workplace Challenges of Dual-Income Families More Or Less Equal? Who's Minding The House? COMPARISONS Household Tasks and Equity in China Children and the Challenge of Child Care The Costs of Both Parents Working What Do You Think? Time Management Role Negotiation Satisfactions of Dual-Income Families Marital Satisfaction Other Benefits PERSONAL Employed and Married, and Loving Both Work and Well-Being Life Satisfaction Mental and Physical Health Coping Strategies Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key terms INTERNET CONNECTION Work and Home PART 4. INTIMACY IN FAMILIES l3. BECOMING A PARENT Learning Objectives Changing Patterns of Child-Bearing Birth Rates Preferences For Size and Sex To Bear Or Not To Bear Why People Want To Have Children The Child-Free Option PERSONAL To Be a Parent? The Agonies of the Decision Involuntary Childlessness Infertility Coping With Infertility Options For the Infertile Artificial Insemination In Vitro Fertilization Surrogate Mothers Adoption What Do You Think? Children and the Quality of Life The Stresses of Raising Children Children and Marital Satisfaction The Satisfactions of Raising Children Parenting: Her Experience and His Experience Her Experience His Experience COMPARISONS On the Playground in France, Germany, and Italy Parenting and the Well-Being of Children Styles of Parenting Types of Discipline Parental Behavior and Children
s Adjustment Parental Behavior and Self-Esteem A Final Note: Is Older Better In Parenting? Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Becoming a Parent 14. THE FAMILY LIFE CYCLE Learning Objectives The Family Life Cycle The Meaning of the Family Life Cycle What Changes Over the Family LIfe Cycle? Social Change and the Family Life Cycle The Newly Married: A Family Without Children What Do You Think? The Family With Young Children The Family At Midlife: Adolescents and Aging Parents The Needs of Adolescents Parent-Child Problems Emerging Adulthood Caring For Aging Parents The Couples' Midlife Concerns Satisfaction at Midlife The Launching and Empty Nest Stage The Couple Together Again PERSONAL An Empty-Nest High Grandparenthood The Aging Family Retirement Marital Relations COMPARISON Caring for Elderly Family Members on Malo Other Relationships Death of a Spouse Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION The Family Life Cycle PART 5. CHALLENGES TO INTIMACY 15. FAMILY CRISES Learning Objectives Sources of Family Crises Stress and Crisis Stressor Events Abuse of Alcohol and Other Drugs In the Family Extent of Drug Abuse Drug Abuse and the Quality of Family Life Family Problems and Drug Abuse Violence In Families The Extent of Violence Child Abuse Incest Spouse Abuse What Do You Think? Parent Abuse COMPARISON Intimate Partner Abuse in Canada Consequences of Abuse Reacting To Crises Coping Patterns Ineffective Coping Patterns The Foundation of Effective Coping Tools For Effective Coping PERSONAL Things Were Terribly Still Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Family Crisis 16. SEPARATION AND DIVORCE Learning Objectives Divorce Trends Divorce Rates Changing Grounds For Divorce What Do You Think? The Process of Uncoupling Toward Marital Dissolution The Six Stations of Divorce Causes and Correlates of Divorce Sociodemographic Factors Interpersonal Factors COMPARISONS Divorce, Japanese Style Effects of Divorce on Spouses/Parents Positive Outcomes Health Problems Financial Problems PERSONAL My Whole World Was Lost Interaction Between Former Spouses Effects of Divorce On Children Short-Term Effects Long-Term Effects Gender Differences Child Custody Coping With the Disruption Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Separation and Divorce 17. REMARRIAGE AND STEPFAMILIES Learning Objectives Types and Number of Remarriages and Stepfamilies Types of Remarried Couples Demographics of Remarriage and Stepfamilies Deja Vu: Dating and Mate Selection Revisited Why Remarry? Issues In Recoupling The Myths of Remarriage The Challenges of Remarriage PERSONAL
My Husband's First Wife Is Straining My Marriage
The Quality of Remarried Life COMPARISONS Repartnering in Australia Living In a Stepfamily What Do You Think? The Stepfamily Life Cycle The Structure of the Stepfamily Stepparents and Stepchildren Family Functioning Making It Work Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Remarriage and Stepfamilies Glossary References Credits Index
PART l. THE CONTEXT OF INTIMACY l. AMERICAN MYTHS AND DREAMS Learning Objectives Myths About Family Life We've Lost the Extended Family Opposites Attract People Marry Because They Love Each Other Having Children Increases Marital Satisfaction A Good Sex Life Is the Best Predictor of Marital Satisfaction Happily Married People Don
t Have Conflict Half of All Marriages End In Divorce The Dangers of Myths Changing Patterns of Intimate Relationships Premarital Sex Births to Unmarried Women Living Alone COMPARISON Asian Women Are Marrying at a Later Age Cohabitation Delayed Marriage Birth Rates Household Size Employed Mothers PERSONAL
I Had to Go to Work
Divorce A Concluding Note On Changing Patterns The Family in Utopia The Family in Utopian Writings The Family in Utopian Communities What Works Best? What Do We Want? What Do We Need? The Great Debate Changes in Traditional Arrangements What Do You Think? Me or We? Strengths and Benefits of Marriage and Family 'Til Death? A Note On Theory Systems Theory Exchange Theory Symbolic Interaction Theory Conflict Theory Theory and Intimacy Summary Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION American Myths and Dreams 2. DIVERSITY IN FAMILIES Learning Objectives The Variability of Family Life Variations Between Societies Variations Within Societies The Single-Parent Family Extent of Single-Parent Families Challenges of the Single-Parent Family COMPARISON Single Parents In Iceland The Successful Single-Parent Family PERSONAL
I Chose To Do It Alone
Racial and Ethnic Minority Families The African-American Family The Hispanic Family The Asian-American Family The Interracial Family Families With Same-Sex Parents What Do You Think? Problems In Gay and Lesbian Families Intimacy In the Gay and Lesbian Family Long-Term Gay and Lesbian Relationships Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Diversity in Families 3. GENDER ROLES: FOUNDATION FOR INTIMACY Learning Objectives Men and Women: How Do They Differ? Men and Women: Some Commonalities Gender Differences Sex, Gender, Gender Role, and Gender-Role Orientation Gender Roles Gender-Role Orientation What Do You Think? Gender Roles: Nature Or Nurture? How Much Is Biological? The Importance Of Nurture Socialization and Gender-Role Orientation COMPARISON Inuit Youth Learn To Be Males and Females Changing Gender Roles and Orientations Changing Patterns Lingering Traditionalism Gender-Role Orientation: What Difference Does It Make? Communication Self-Concept Mental Health Gender-Role Orientation and Intimacy PERSONAL
We Worked It Out
Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Gender Roles: Foundation for Intimacy 4. SEXUALITY Learning Objectives The Meaning of Sex Heterosexuality and Homosexuality Sex As Physical: The Response Cycle Sex As Social Behavior Unwanted and Coerced Sex Sex and Intimate Relationships PERSONAL Sex and the Search for Intimacy Teenage Sex Extent of Sex Among Teenagers Unwanted Pregnancy and Early Childbearing Contraception Amount and Kinds of Contraceptive Use Who Uses Contraceptives Abortion What Do You Think? Premarital Sex The Double Standard Changing Attitudes Changing Behavior Sex In Marriage Sexual Practices in Marriage Sexual Satisfaction and Marital Satisfaction Changes in Marital Sex Over the Lifespan Extramarital Sex Why Extramarital Sex? Some Consequences of Extramarital Sex Sexual Diseases and Dysfunctions Sexual Diseases Sexual Dysfunctions Inhibited Sexual Desire Safe Sex COMPARISON Unsafe Sex In Lesotho Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Sexuality PART 2. SEEKING INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS 5. GETTING TO KNOW SOMEONE ELSE Learning Objectives We Are Social Creatures Loneliness Fulfillment Through Intimacy PERSONAL Searching for Intimacy The Nature of Intimacy The Meaning of Intimacy Intimacy as an Exchange Relationship Intimacy as Self-Sustaining Meeting and Getting to Know Others First Impressions What Do You Think? What Attracts? COMPARISON Mexican and United States Teens Portray Their Ideals About the Opposite Sex Developing a Relationship First Stage: Initial Meeting and Awareness Second Stage: The Selection Process Third Stage: Developing Intimacy Fourth Stage: Maintaining or Dissolving the Relationship Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Getting to Know Someone Else 6. GETTING INVOLVED Learning Objectives Hanging Out and Hooking Up Dating Finding People To Date Selecting a Dating Partner Functions of Dating Patterns of Dating COMPARISON Commitment to Dating Partners in theU.S. and Taiwan Dating Problems Moving Beyond Dating Moving Into a More Permanent Relationship Engagement Cohabitation What Do You Think? Who Cohabits? Patterns of Cohabitation Cohabitation Compared to Marriage Cohabitation as a Preparation for Marriage Breaking Up Who Breaks Up? Responding to Deterioration PERSONAL The Birth, Life, and Death of a Relationship Staying Single Why People Are Single Intimacy and Life Satisfaction Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Getting Involved 7. Falling In Love Learning Objectives The Meaning of Love When You Fall In Love The Process of Falling How Can You Tell If It's Love? PERSONAL Falling in Love
Twice Passionate Versus Companionate Love The Emergence of Passionate Love The Experience of Passionate Love From Passionate Love To Companionate Love What Do You Think? Loving and Liking Rubin's Love Scale Love and Friendship A Triangular Theory of Love Styles of Loving Six Types of Lovers Implications of Differing Styles of Loving Love Threatened--Jealousy Who Is Most Jealous? COMPARISON Jealousy Among the Italians, Dutch, and New Guineans Situations That Provoke Jealousy Consequences of Jealousy Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Falling in Love 8. Selecting A Life Partner Learning Objectives Is There a Best Way To Select a Life Partner? What We Expect In a Life Partner COMPARISON Looking for a Mate in India Qualities Desired in a Life Partner Exchange and Equity Narrowing the Field: Assortative Mating Life Partner Selection as a Filtering Process Age Ethnic Background Race Religion Education Personality And So Forth Why Assortative Mating? Predictors of Marital Satisfaction Timing PERSONAL Should I Marry My Baby
s Father? Equity What Do You Think? Communication PREPARE: A Multi-Factor Approach A Final Caution Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Selecting a Life Partner PART 3. THE INTIMATE COUPLE 9. GETTING MARRIED Learning Objectives What Are Your Chances of Getting Married? Marital Status of the Population Who Does, and Doesn't, Marry? Why Do People Marry? The Need for Intimacy Social Expectations What Do You Think? Social Ideals and Personal Fulfillment Desire for Children Marriage as a Practical Solution Types of Marriage Classified by Lifestyles Classified by Nature of the Relationships COMPARISON Types of Marriage in Togo Expectations Our Private Contracts Role Expectations Negotiation: Changing Personal Contracts The Marriage Contract: Clarifying Expectations Adjusting To Marriage His Marriage and Her Marriage Starting With Two Strikes Establishing Equity and Consensus Adjustment and In-Law Relationships First Year Changes PERSONAL In-Laws: The Good and the Bad Commitment The Meaning of Commitment The Role of Commitment Building Commitment Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Getting Married 10. THE CHALLENGE OF COMMUNICATION Learning Objectives The Nature of Communication Verbal Communication Nonverbal Communication Communication as an Interaction Process A Discussion About Sex Communication Static Communicating Feelings Listening Styles of Poor Listening Improving Listening Skills Impediments To Communication Destructive Messages What Do You Think? Gender Differences As An Impediment Why Husbands and Wives Don't Talk To Each Other Satisfying Communication PERSONAL All the Talk Was Useless Communication, Marital Satisfaction, and Intimacy Everyday Conversations Self-Disclosure COMPARISON Couple Talk in Brisbane and Munich Other Aspects of Communication Improving Communication Skills Rules Practice Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION The Challenge of Communication 11. POWER AND CONFLICT IN MARRIAGE Learning Objectives Power In Marriage The Meaning of Power Why Is Power Important? Sources of Power COMPARISON The Power of Egyptian Husbands and Wives What Do You Think? Marriage as a Power Struggle Types of Power Interaction Conflict In Marriage The Positive Functions of Conflict The Negative Consequences of Severe Conflict What People Fight About Sources of Tension Styles of Conflict Good Fighting Maintain Your Perspective PERSONAL Learning How to Fight Develop Tension Outlets Avoid Festering Resentment Be Sensitive To Timing Communicate Without Ceasing Be Flexible, Willing To Compromise Use Conflict To Attack Problems, Not Your Spouse Keep Loving While You Are Fighting Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Power and Conflict in Marriage l2. Work And Home Learning Objectives His Work and Her Work Changing P atterns of Working Women In the Labor Force Married Women and Employment Types of Dual-Career Families Why Women Work Outside the Home Home Versus the Workplace Challenges of Dual-Income Families More Or Less Equal? Who's Minding The House? COMPARISONS Household Tasks and Equity in China Children and the Challenge of Child Care The Costs of Both Parents Working What Do You Think? Time Management Role Negotiation Satisfactions of Dual-Income Families Marital Satisfaction Other Benefits PERSONAL Employed and Married, and Loving Both Work and Well-Being Life Satisfaction Mental and Physical Health Coping Strategies Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key terms INTERNET CONNECTION Work and Home PART 4. INTIMACY IN FAMILIES l3. BECOMING A PARENT Learning Objectives Changing Patterns of Child-Bearing Birth Rates Preferences For Size and Sex To Bear Or Not To Bear Why People Want To Have Children The Child-Free Option PERSONAL To Be a Parent? The Agonies of the Decision Involuntary Childlessness Infertility Coping With Infertility Options For the Infertile Artificial Insemination In Vitro Fertilization Surrogate Mothers Adoption What Do You Think? Children and the Quality of Life The Stresses of Raising Children Children and Marital Satisfaction The Satisfactions of Raising Children Parenting: Her Experience and His Experience Her Experience His Experience COMPARISONS On the Playground in France, Germany, and Italy Parenting and the Well-Being of Children Styles of Parenting Types of Discipline Parental Behavior and Children
s Adjustment Parental Behavior and Self-Esteem A Final Note: Is Older Better In Parenting? Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Becoming a Parent 14. THE FAMILY LIFE CYCLE Learning Objectives The Family Life Cycle The Meaning of the Family Life Cycle What Changes Over the Family LIfe Cycle? Social Change and the Family Life Cycle The Newly Married: A Family Without Children What Do You Think? The Family With Young Children The Family At Midlife: Adolescents and Aging Parents The Needs of Adolescents Parent-Child Problems Emerging Adulthood Caring For Aging Parents The Couples' Midlife Concerns Satisfaction at Midlife The Launching and Empty Nest Stage The Couple Together Again PERSONAL An Empty-Nest High Grandparenthood The Aging Family Retirement Marital Relations COMPARISON Caring for Elderly Family Members on Malo Other Relationships Death of a Spouse Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION The Family Life Cycle PART 5. CHALLENGES TO INTIMACY 15. FAMILY CRISES Learning Objectives Sources of Family Crises Stress and Crisis Stressor Events Abuse of Alcohol and Other Drugs In the Family Extent of Drug Abuse Drug Abuse and the Quality of Family Life Family Problems and Drug Abuse Violence In Families The Extent of Violence Child Abuse Incest Spouse Abuse What Do You Think? Parent Abuse COMPARISON Intimate Partner Abuse in Canada Consequences of Abuse Reacting To Crises Coping Patterns Ineffective Coping Patterns The Foundation of Effective Coping Tools For Effective Coping PERSONAL Things Were Terribly Still Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Family Crisis 16. SEPARATION AND DIVORCE Learning Objectives Divorce Trends Divorce Rates Changing Grounds For Divorce What Do You Think? The Process of Uncoupling Toward Marital Dissolution The Six Stations of Divorce Causes and Correlates of Divorce Sociodemographic Factors Interpersonal Factors COMPARISONS Divorce, Japanese Style Effects of Divorce on Spouses/Parents Positive Outcomes Health Problems Financial Problems PERSONAL My Whole World Was Lost Interaction Between Former Spouses Effects of Divorce On Children Short-Term Effects Long-Term Effects Gender Differences Child Custody Coping With the Disruption Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Separation and Divorce 17. REMARRIAGE AND STEPFAMILIES Learning Objectives Types and Number of Remarriages and Stepfamilies Types of Remarried Couples Demographics of Remarriage and Stepfamilies Deja Vu: Dating and Mate Selection Revisited Why Remarry? Issues In Recoupling The Myths of Remarriage The Challenges of Remarriage PERSONAL
My Husband's First Wife Is Straining My Marriage
The Quality of Remarried Life COMPARISONS Repartnering in Australia Living In a Stepfamily What Do You Think? The Stepfamily Life Cycle The Structure of the Stepfamily Stepparents and Stepchildren Family Functioning Making It Work Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Remarriage and Stepfamilies Glossary References Credits Index
t Have Conflict Half of All Marriages End In Divorce The Dangers of Myths Changing Patterns of Intimate Relationships Premarital Sex Births to Unmarried Women Living Alone COMPARISON Asian Women Are Marrying at a Later Age Cohabitation Delayed Marriage Birth Rates Household Size Employed Mothers PERSONAL
I Had to Go to Work
Divorce A Concluding Note On Changing Patterns The Family in Utopia The Family in Utopian Writings The Family in Utopian Communities What Works Best? What Do We Want? What Do We Need? The Great Debate Changes in Traditional Arrangements What Do You Think? Me or We? Strengths and Benefits of Marriage and Family 'Til Death? A Note On Theory Systems Theory Exchange Theory Symbolic Interaction Theory Conflict Theory Theory and Intimacy Summary Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION American Myths and Dreams 2. DIVERSITY IN FAMILIES Learning Objectives The Variability of Family Life Variations Between Societies Variations Within Societies The Single-Parent Family Extent of Single-Parent Families Challenges of the Single-Parent Family COMPARISON Single Parents In Iceland The Successful Single-Parent Family PERSONAL
I Chose To Do It Alone
Racial and Ethnic Minority Families The African-American Family The Hispanic Family The Asian-American Family The Interracial Family Families With Same-Sex Parents What Do You Think? Problems In Gay and Lesbian Families Intimacy In the Gay and Lesbian Family Long-Term Gay and Lesbian Relationships Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Diversity in Families 3. GENDER ROLES: FOUNDATION FOR INTIMACY Learning Objectives Men and Women: How Do They Differ? Men and Women: Some Commonalities Gender Differences Sex, Gender, Gender Role, and Gender-Role Orientation Gender Roles Gender-Role Orientation What Do You Think? Gender Roles: Nature Or Nurture? How Much Is Biological? The Importance Of Nurture Socialization and Gender-Role Orientation COMPARISON Inuit Youth Learn To Be Males and Females Changing Gender Roles and Orientations Changing Patterns Lingering Traditionalism Gender-Role Orientation: What Difference Does It Make? Communication Self-Concept Mental Health Gender-Role Orientation and Intimacy PERSONAL
We Worked It Out
Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Gender Roles: Foundation for Intimacy 4. SEXUALITY Learning Objectives The Meaning of Sex Heterosexuality and Homosexuality Sex As Physical: The Response Cycle Sex As Social Behavior Unwanted and Coerced Sex Sex and Intimate Relationships PERSONAL Sex and the Search for Intimacy Teenage Sex Extent of Sex Among Teenagers Unwanted Pregnancy and Early Childbearing Contraception Amount and Kinds of Contraceptive Use Who Uses Contraceptives Abortion What Do You Think? Premarital Sex The Double Standard Changing Attitudes Changing Behavior Sex In Marriage Sexual Practices in Marriage Sexual Satisfaction and Marital Satisfaction Changes in Marital Sex Over the Lifespan Extramarital Sex Why Extramarital Sex? Some Consequences of Extramarital Sex Sexual Diseases and Dysfunctions Sexual Diseases Sexual Dysfunctions Inhibited Sexual Desire Safe Sex COMPARISON Unsafe Sex In Lesotho Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Sexuality PART 2. SEEKING INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS 5. GETTING TO KNOW SOMEONE ELSE Learning Objectives We Are Social Creatures Loneliness Fulfillment Through Intimacy PERSONAL Searching for Intimacy The Nature of Intimacy The Meaning of Intimacy Intimacy as an Exchange Relationship Intimacy as Self-Sustaining Meeting and Getting to Know Others First Impressions What Do You Think? What Attracts? COMPARISON Mexican and United States Teens Portray Their Ideals About the Opposite Sex Developing a Relationship First Stage: Initial Meeting and Awareness Second Stage: The Selection Process Third Stage: Developing Intimacy Fourth Stage: Maintaining or Dissolving the Relationship Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Getting to Know Someone Else 6. GETTING INVOLVED Learning Objectives Hanging Out and Hooking Up Dating Finding People To Date Selecting a Dating Partner Functions of Dating Patterns of Dating COMPARISON Commitment to Dating Partners in theU.S. and Taiwan Dating Problems Moving Beyond Dating Moving Into a More Permanent Relationship Engagement Cohabitation What Do You Think? Who Cohabits? Patterns of Cohabitation Cohabitation Compared to Marriage Cohabitation as a Preparation for Marriage Breaking Up Who Breaks Up? Responding to Deterioration PERSONAL The Birth, Life, and Death of a Relationship Staying Single Why People Are Single Intimacy and Life Satisfaction Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Getting Involved 7. Falling In Love Learning Objectives The Meaning of Love When You Fall In Love The Process of Falling How Can You Tell If It's Love? PERSONAL Falling in Love
Twice Passionate Versus Companionate Love The Emergence of Passionate Love The Experience of Passionate Love From Passionate Love To Companionate Love What Do You Think? Loving and Liking Rubin's Love Scale Love and Friendship A Triangular Theory of Love Styles of Loving Six Types of Lovers Implications of Differing Styles of Loving Love Threatened--Jealousy Who Is Most Jealous? COMPARISON Jealousy Among the Italians, Dutch, and New Guineans Situations That Provoke Jealousy Consequences of Jealousy Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Falling in Love 8. Selecting A Life Partner Learning Objectives Is There a Best Way To Select a Life Partner? What We Expect In a Life Partner COMPARISON Looking for a Mate in India Qualities Desired in a Life Partner Exchange and Equity Narrowing the Field: Assortative Mating Life Partner Selection as a Filtering Process Age Ethnic Background Race Religion Education Personality And So Forth Why Assortative Mating? Predictors of Marital Satisfaction Timing PERSONAL Should I Marry My Baby
s Father? Equity What Do You Think? Communication PREPARE: A Multi-Factor Approach A Final Caution Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Selecting a Life Partner PART 3. THE INTIMATE COUPLE 9. GETTING MARRIED Learning Objectives What Are Your Chances of Getting Married? Marital Status of the Population Who Does, and Doesn't, Marry? Why Do People Marry? The Need for Intimacy Social Expectations What Do You Think? Social Ideals and Personal Fulfillment Desire for Children Marriage as a Practical Solution Types of Marriage Classified by Lifestyles Classified by Nature of the Relationships COMPARISON Types of Marriage in Togo Expectations Our Private Contracts Role Expectations Negotiation: Changing Personal Contracts The Marriage Contract: Clarifying Expectations Adjusting To Marriage His Marriage and Her Marriage Starting With Two Strikes Establishing Equity and Consensus Adjustment and In-Law Relationships First Year Changes PERSONAL In-Laws: The Good and the Bad Commitment The Meaning of Commitment The Role of Commitment Building Commitment Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Getting Married 10. THE CHALLENGE OF COMMUNICATION Learning Objectives The Nature of Communication Verbal Communication Nonverbal Communication Communication as an Interaction Process A Discussion About Sex Communication Static Communicating Feelings Listening Styles of Poor Listening Improving Listening Skills Impediments To Communication Destructive Messages What Do You Think? Gender Differences As An Impediment Why Husbands and Wives Don't Talk To Each Other Satisfying Communication PERSONAL All the Talk Was Useless Communication, Marital Satisfaction, and Intimacy Everyday Conversations Self-Disclosure COMPARISON Couple Talk in Brisbane and Munich Other Aspects of Communication Improving Communication Skills Rules Practice Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION The Challenge of Communication 11. POWER AND CONFLICT IN MARRIAGE Learning Objectives Power In Marriage The Meaning of Power Why Is Power Important? Sources of Power COMPARISON The Power of Egyptian Husbands and Wives What Do You Think? Marriage as a Power Struggle Types of Power Interaction Conflict In Marriage The Positive Functions of Conflict The Negative Consequences of Severe Conflict What People Fight About Sources of Tension Styles of Conflict Good Fighting Maintain Your Perspective PERSONAL Learning How to Fight Develop Tension Outlets Avoid Festering Resentment Be Sensitive To Timing Communicate Without Ceasing Be Flexible, Willing To Compromise Use Conflict To Attack Problems, Not Your Spouse Keep Loving While You Are Fighting Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Power and Conflict in Marriage l2. Work And Home Learning Objectives His Work and Her Work Changing P atterns of Working Women In the Labor Force Married Women and Employment Types of Dual-Career Families Why Women Work Outside the Home Home Versus the Workplace Challenges of Dual-Income Families More Or Less Equal? Who's Minding The House? COMPARISONS Household Tasks and Equity in China Children and the Challenge of Child Care The Costs of Both Parents Working What Do You Think? Time Management Role Negotiation Satisfactions of Dual-Income Families Marital Satisfaction Other Benefits PERSONAL Employed and Married, and Loving Both Work and Well-Being Life Satisfaction Mental and Physical Health Coping Strategies Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key terms INTERNET CONNECTION Work and Home PART 4. INTIMACY IN FAMILIES l3. BECOMING A PARENT Learning Objectives Changing Patterns of Child-Bearing Birth Rates Preferences For Size and Sex To Bear Or Not To Bear Why People Want To Have Children The Child-Free Option PERSONAL To Be a Parent? The Agonies of the Decision Involuntary Childlessness Infertility Coping With Infertility Options For the Infertile Artificial Insemination In Vitro Fertilization Surrogate Mothers Adoption What Do You Think? Children and the Quality of Life The Stresses of Raising Children Children and Marital Satisfaction The Satisfactions of Raising Children Parenting: Her Experience and His Experience Her Experience His Experience COMPARISONS On the Playground in France, Germany, and Italy Parenting and the Well-Being of Children Styles of Parenting Types of Discipline Parental Behavior and Children
s Adjustment Parental Behavior and Self-Esteem A Final Note: Is Older Better In Parenting? Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Becoming a Parent 14. THE FAMILY LIFE CYCLE Learning Objectives The Family Life Cycle The Meaning of the Family Life Cycle What Changes Over the Family LIfe Cycle? Social Change and the Family Life Cycle The Newly Married: A Family Without Children What Do You Think? The Family With Young Children The Family At Midlife: Adolescents and Aging Parents The Needs of Adolescents Parent-Child Problems Emerging Adulthood Caring For Aging Parents The Couples' Midlife Concerns Satisfaction at Midlife The Launching and Empty Nest Stage The Couple Together Again PERSONAL An Empty-Nest High Grandparenthood The Aging Family Retirement Marital Relations COMPARISON Caring for Elderly Family Members on Malo Other Relationships Death of a Spouse Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION The Family Life Cycle PART 5. CHALLENGES TO INTIMACY 15. FAMILY CRISES Learning Objectives Sources of Family Crises Stress and Crisis Stressor Events Abuse of Alcohol and Other Drugs In the Family Extent of Drug Abuse Drug Abuse and the Quality of Family Life Family Problems and Drug Abuse Violence In Families The Extent of Violence Child Abuse Incest Spouse Abuse What Do You Think? Parent Abuse COMPARISON Intimate Partner Abuse in Canada Consequences of Abuse Reacting To Crises Coping Patterns Ineffective Coping Patterns The Foundation of Effective Coping Tools For Effective Coping PERSONAL Things Were Terribly Still Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Family Crisis 16. SEPARATION AND DIVORCE Learning Objectives Divorce Trends Divorce Rates Changing Grounds For Divorce What Do You Think? The Process of Uncoupling Toward Marital Dissolution The Six Stations of Divorce Causes and Correlates of Divorce Sociodemographic Factors Interpersonal Factors COMPARISONS Divorce, Japanese Style Effects of Divorce on Spouses/Parents Positive Outcomes Health Problems Financial Problems PERSONAL My Whole World Was Lost Interaction Between Former Spouses Effects of Divorce On Children Short-Term Effects Long-Term Effects Gender Differences Child Custody Coping With the Disruption Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Separation and Divorce 17. REMARRIAGE AND STEPFAMILIES Learning Objectives Types and Number of Remarriages and Stepfamilies Types of Remarried Couples Demographics of Remarriage and Stepfamilies Deja Vu: Dating and Mate Selection Revisited Why Remarry? Issues In Recoupling The Myths of Remarriage The Challenges of Remarriage PERSONAL
My Husband's First Wife Is Straining My Marriage
The Quality of Remarried Life COMPARISONS Repartnering in Australia Living In a Stepfamily What Do You Think? The Stepfamily Life Cycle The Structure of the Stepfamily Stepparents and Stepchildren Family Functioning Making It Work Summary Principles for Enhancing Intimacy Key Terms INTERNET CONNECTION Remarriage and Stepfamilies Glossary References Credits Index