Jeannie Gainsburg

The Savvy Ally

A Guide for Becoming a Skilled LGBTQ+ Advocate

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Produktbeschreibung

The Savvy Ally: A Guide for Becoming a Skilled LGBTQ+ Advocate is an enjoyable, humorous, encouraging, easy to understand guidebook for being an ally to LGBTQ+ communities.

Produktdetails

• Verlag: Rowman & Littlefield Publishers
• Second Edition
• Seitenzahl: 286
• Erscheinungstermin: 31. März 2023
• Englisch
• Abmessung: 235mm x 157mm x 21mm
• Gewicht: 620g
• ISBN-13: 9781538169230
• ISBN-10: 1538169231
• Artikelnr.: 66351533

Autorenporträt

Jeannie Gainsburg is an award-winning educational trainer and consultant in the field of LGBTQ+ inclusion and effective allyship. Formerly the Education Director at the Out Alliance of Rochester, NY, she is the founder of Savvy Ally Action. She has personally facilitated or co-facilitated approximately 500 trainings and workshops in over 20 different states at corporations, colleges, government agencies, K-12 schools, and more. She is the recipient of the Empire State Pride Agenda's Community Champion Award (2015), the Rochester LGBTQ Community Appreciation Award (2019), and a New York State Assembly Distinguished Educational & Human Rights Services Citation (2019). Her writing has been published in Pride Magazine, Metro Justice Newsletter, (585) Magazine, and The Empty Closet, and is currently on several LGBTQ+ websites. Jeannie lives in Rochester, NY with her husband, Ed, and her cat, Carlos. Visit her website and download free ally goodies at www.savvyallyaction.com.

Inhaltsangabe

Author's Note
Preface
1 - Getting Started
Thank You
What You Can Expect from This Book
Defining Ally Broadly
Bringing My Friends Along for the Ride
Practice Makes Pretty Darn Good
The Power of the Ally
Allies Can Help Validate a Cause
Allies Can Be a Cultural Bridge
Allies Can Take the Heat Off of LGBTQ+ People
Allies Can Be Possibility Models
Allies Can Get Special Access
What's Your Story?
Notes
Part I: Becoming Knowledgeable Allies
2 - Caution: Identities Being Defined!
Cisgender
LGBTQ+
Queer
Why Do There Have to Be So Many Identity Words?
Note
3 - Coming Out as LGBTQ+
Why the Big Reveal?
The Coming-Out Process
Identity Confusion
Identity Comparison
Identity Tolerance
Identity Acceptance
Identity Pride
Identity Synthesis
In Summary
From Theory to Reality
Coming Out Is a Lifelong Process
The Process Is Not Always Linear
It's So Much Fun, Some Folks Do It Twice!
It's Not Just for LGBTQ+ People
Coming Out Is Not Always the Immediate Goal
Responding When Someone Comes Out to You
A Better Metaphor for Coming Out
What to Say
What Not to Say
Future Fantasies
Notes
4 - Orientations, Identities, Behaviors-Oh My!
A Basic Diagram of the Components of Sex, Gender, and Sexuality
Biological Sex
Gender Identity
Gender Expression
Attraction (Also Known as Orientation)
Intimate Behaviors
Where Do I Fall?
Biological Sex
Gender Identity
Gender Expression
Attraction
Intimate Behaviors
An Advanced Diagram of the Components of Sex, Gender, and Sexuality
Answers To Our Questions
What the Heck Does Nonbinary Mean?
Can Transgender People Also Be Gay?
How Can I Tell If Someone Is Gay?
How Can Someone Be Asexual but Still Have Sex?
Key Ally Takeaways
Notes
Part II: Building Skills for Having Respectful Conversations
5 - Pronouns: Sharing, Gathering, and Using
Why Are Pronouns So Important?
Sharing
Gathering
One on One
In a Small Group
In Large Numbers
Using
Singular They
Neopronouns
More Than One Pronoun
Messing Up Properly
Notes
6 - LGBTQ+ Etiquette Tips, Common Bloopers, and Outdated Terms
LGBTQ+ Etiquette Tips
Tip #1: Ungender Your Language
Tip #2: Mirror Terms
Combining Tip #1 and Tip #2
Tip #3: Implement the "Switch It" Technique
Tip #4: Use the Correct Name and Pronoun
Tip #5: Focus on What You Need to Know
Common LGBTQ+ Language Bloopers to Avoid
Getting Creative with the Word Transgender
Confusing the Terms Transgender Man and Transgender Woman
Talking About Preferred Pronouns
Using the Word Preference Instead of Orientation
Using Language That Implies That Transitioning is Completed
Focusing on the Past
Asking a Gay Couple Which One is the Man and Which One is the Woman
Outdated Terms and Better Language Choices
Use Transgender Instead of Transsexual
Use Cross-Dresser Instead of Transvestite
Use Gay Instead of Homosexual
Use Typical Instead of Normal
Use Intersex Instead of Hermaphrodite
Use Different Sex or Gender Instead of Opposite Sex or Gender
Use Are Instead of Identify As
Avoid These Terms Altogether
Notes
7 - Gaydar and Other Problematic Assumptions
Gaydar
LGBTQ+ Myths and Stereotypes
Myths and Stereotypes About Straight/Cisgender Allies
Intersectionality
Notes
8 - Good Talk: The Art of Having Useful Conversations
We Are All Resistant Learners
Tips for Having Respectful and Useful Conversations
Put Yourself in the Hot Seat (Prep Work)
Set Your Listen/Share Dial to At Least 50/50 (Prep Work)
Assume Goodwill
Avoid Labeling the Comment or Behavior
Use "I" Statements
Find Common Ground
Educate with Examples, Not Definitions
Try the "Switch It" Technique
Listen for Those Myths and Stereotypes
Be Aware of Your Hot Buttons
A Night Out with Lou the Lunchroom Aide
An Ally's Gift
Notes
Part III: Taking Action to Create More Inclusive Spaces
9 - Straight Pride Parades and Special Snowflakes: Addressing Common
Questions
I Just Treat Everyone the Same; What's Wrong with That?
Why Do LGBTQ+ People Have to Flaunt Their Sexuality and Get in My Face with
It?
The Falsely Accused Flaunter
The Temporary Flaunter
The Fulltime Flaunter
I Know My Friend Is Gay-How Can I Get Him to Come Out to Me?
Aren't We in a Good Place Now with LGBTQ+ Rights and Inclusion? What's Left
to Do?
Why Isn't There a Straight Pride Parade?
Reality Check #1
Reality Check #2
Reality Check #3
Reality Check #4
Apparently, I'm Cisgender. How Can I Be Something That I've Never Heard Of?
Do I Have to Go Around Telling People I'm Cisgender Now?
1) How Can I Be Something That I Don't Even Know About and Why Does Someone
Else Get to Define Me? (Confused/Irritated)
2) Is This New Word Really "A Thing" Or Will It Be Gone Next Month?
(Skeptical)
3) Do I Have to Embrace This New Term? My List of Identity Terms Seems to
Be Constantly Growing. Which Ones Do I Have to Share in Order to Be
Respectful? (Overwhelmed)
Why Are LGBTQ+ People So Angry?
My Lesbian Friends Call Each Other Dykes. Why Is It Okay for Them to Do
That But Not Me?
I Thought People Were "Born That Way"; Now You're Telling Me That Being
LGBTQ+ Can Be a Lifelong Journey of Changing Identities? WTF?
I Feel Like I Can't Say Anything Anymore Without Offending Someone. Don't
You Think We've Gone Too Far with All of This PC Language?
Notes
10 - Duct Tape Patch-up Jobs and Big Fixes
Educating Others
Duct Tape Patch-Up Jobs with Our Educational Opportunities
Big Fixes with Our Educational Opportunities
Increasing LGBTQ+ Visibility
Duct Tape Patch-Up Jobs for Increasing LGBTQ+ Visibility
Big Fixes for Increasing LGBTQ+ Visibility
Revising Forms
Duct Tape Patch-Up Jobs for Revising Forms and Paperwork
Big Fixes for Revising Forms and Paperwork
Updating Policies
Duct Tape Patch-Up Jobs for Updating Policies
Big Fixes for Updating Policies
Fixing Gendered Facilities
Duct Tape Patch-Up Jobs for Fixing Gendered Restrooms and Other Facilities
Big Fixes for Fixing Gendered Restrooms and Other Facilities
A Special Note about Signage
Notes
11 - Creating LGBTQ+ Inclusive Spaces in Different Settings
In Your Home
In Health and Mental Health Settings
Caring for LGBTQ+ People of Color
Caring for Transgender Individuals
Caring for Older LGBTQ+ Adults
In the Workplace
In Faith Communities
In Schools
Notes
12 - Taking It to the Streets
Rallies, Marches, Protests, and Lobbying
Talking with Politicians
Fundraising
Pride
Notes
13 - Now What? Questions from Allies in the Real World
Questions About Terms and Identities
Questions from Family Members
Questions from the Workplace
Questions from Teachers and School Staff
Notes
Part IV: Allying Responsibly
14 - Messing Up Properly
Accidentally Misgendering Someone
Offer an Apology or a Thank You
Forgive Yourself
Get it Right the Next Time
* Try Again Right Away
* Practice in Your Head
* Write It Down
* Add Pronouns to Your Phone Contacts
* Practice on Your Pet
* Imagine a Mouse
Making an Offensive or Hurtful Comment
Offer a Thank You and an Apology
Forgive Yourself
Get It Right the Next Time
* Do Your Homework
* Use-it-or-Lose-it
* Share What You've Learned with Someone Else
* Remind Yourself that Catching Yourself Is the First Step to Success
Blundering Again
Notes
15 - Backlash Against Allies
Ally Is a Practice, Not an Identity
Shut Up and Listen
"A" Is for Asexual
Key Ally Takeaways
Pay It Forward
Notes
16 - Sustainability
Take Care of Yourself
Be on Your Own Team
Treat Yourself the Way You Would Treat Your Best Friend
Give Yourself Permission to Fail
Use Positive Self-Coaching Tips
Keep a Joy Journal
Know Your Recipe for Wellness and Follow It
Think About What's Not Wrong
Pace Yourself
Continue Your Education
Every So Often, Return to "Why?"
Notes
Discussion Guide
Glossary
Bibliography
Acknowledgments
Index
About the Author