Aron Gersh

Falling For Love (eBook, ePUB)

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Produktbeschreibung

If you have ever wondered why some seemingly great romances (of famous people, or very ordinary folk, or indeed your own) end up falling apart at the seams, and what seemed like the promise of a great and enduring love turns into a wounded, conflict-ridden separation or divorce, this book should help explain why.

Falling for Love suggests that when we get involved in romantic love, we are like people watching a performance of a magic trick, or grand illusion. Things appear to happen magically, because the real cause of what we see as happening is hidden somewhere, out of view. If we could see the real hidden cause, the magic would disappear. The magic of romantic love is based, I suggest, on hidden psychodynamic processes in us.

For the romantic lovers, all the problems of life currently seem solved, of course. But others, older and wiser perhaps, know that the real issues of relationships will arise and have to be faced eventually. Society generally, and expert relationship psychotherapists know this only too well. Yet society, as well as the experts, fails to ascribe anything problematic about the romantic phase itself. They welcome and delight in lovers, and wait in the wings for the hidden problems to reveal themselves later.

This book adds a perspective which I believe is unique in any literature about romantic love. It validates the popular views about what is hidden by romantic bliss and what will appear later. But crucially, it suggests we need to look at the problems inherent already in the romantic period of extreme bliss.
It suggests to lovers:
"Falling in love? Perhaps you need to consider the following . . . "

The suggestion is that there are a variety of fantasy elements active when we fall in love, and that it is worthwhile to be aware of them, and thus of the potential illusions they create in us, so that we can move toward becoming less regressed, more mature and authentic lovers, loving each other as real persons, not fantasies of perfection we create in our imaginations about our partners. As such, this is not a book cynical about love, but an attempt to inspire us toward a more true, a more authentic way of being in love.

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Produktdetails

• Verlag: Aron Gersh
• Erscheinungstermin: 29. Dezember 2016
• Englisch
• ISBN-13: 9780951611715
• Artikelnr.: 48564639

Autorenporträt

I have been involved in psychology for 45 years now. My studies spanned both South Africa and London (at an American University that functioned there for 10 years, Antioch, Yellow Springs, Ohio a very creative, and respected, alternative university). Training too as a psychotherapist there, I worked as one for 8 years. I was involved with England's top personal growth centre, Quaesitor, for the last 2 years before its closing in 1978. At Quaesitor I did endless forms of group training . . . in the healing of emotional pains, and towards personal growing as a human being, in all ways. I call myself a Humanistic Psychologist, and that includes some orientation towards the theories, but not the practices, of psychoanalysis. I ran England's top personal growth magazine at that time (1988 -1995) as editor and almost everything else. It was called Human Potential Magazine.
In 2001 I was involved in bringing to South Africa The Mankind Project, an organisation dedicated to Men's Issues, to men sharing from their hearts, etc. The first training happened the weekend before the 9/11 Twin Towers disaster, when 40 men went through a challenging weekend about all aspects of "male psychology". This project has grown more than 40 fold since then.
The book is based on deep psychological theory of how we relive the past in the present. I live both in South Africa and in London and am a proud dual citizen of both countries. In 1999 I cycled from the west coast to the east coast of America in 26 days but such cycle-ogical information is not really relevant to this book, though, like the art of loving, it required discipline, courage and patience to achieve that. Generally a content person, I carry a belief that there need be no shortages of love in our lives, if we learn to love others as best as we can.