How come some individuals appear to so easily find loving partners andrelationships that lead to consignment, marriage, and youngsters? And how comethe rest of us left questioning how they do it-while we seem to go on date afterdate, or have one relationship after another come apart? Is it that we choose thewrong individuals again and again? Or maybe we act a particular way that makesperfectly great mates leave us.Perhaps it’s even merely a matter of mischance and bad timing that causes a fewof us to discover ourselves alone.The reality may be real hard to believe. And that's that anybody can have a loving,healthy, and long-lived relationship with a mate they find both attractive as wellas nurturing of their character, spare-time activity, and goals. But, whatcommonly occurs it that we get into relationships and then act in thoserelationships entirely based on gut instinct. And not only are we unconscious ofwhere those instincts come from, but those instincts are commonly based onsome really bad habits learned in childhood.