Jen Lumanlan

Parenting Beyond Power (eBook, ePUB)

How to Use Connection and Collaboration to Transform Your Family--and the World

• Format: ePub

Produktbeschreibung

"I'm in love with this book! It illuminates the forces that make parenting so difficult, and helps us develop better relationships with our kids-and ourselves." -Hunter Clarke-Fields, MSAE, author of Raising Good Humans Parenting is hard. But when we replace conventional parent-child power dynamics with collaboration, family life gets easier today-and we create a better world for all of us in the future. When we see our children stalling, resisting, having tantrums, using mean words, and hitting, we want to just make it stop. But conventional discipline methods like time-outs, countdowns, and "consequences" teach children that it's OK for more powerful people to control others-a lesson they take out into the world. This is how we learned White supremacy, patriarchy, and capitalism from our parents-and we will replicate this with our children unless we make a different choice. Research-based parenting educator Jen Lumanlan offers a simple yet revolutionary framework for rethinking our relationships with children. This new approach helps us to look beneath challenging behaviors to find and meet children's needs, and ours too-perhaps for the first time in our lives. It involves empathetic listening, understanding feelings and underlying needs, and problem-solving with our children to find solutions to conflicts that work for everyone. Family life becomes radically easier in the short term because behavior problems tend to melt away. In the long term, we'll raise children who confidently advocate for themselves and treat others with profound respect. Includes sample scripts, flowcharts, and resources to help parents learn and implement this new approach. -"The compassionate guidance will be a boon to parents eager to move away from punitive child-rearing strategies."-Publisher's Weekly

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Produktdetails

• Verlag: Blue Star Press
• Seitenzahl: 272
• Erscheinungstermin: 5. September 2023
• Englisch
• ISBN-13: 9781632174499
• Artikelnr.: 66301356

Autorenporträt

JEN LUMANLAN MS, MEd, is the host of the Your Parenting Mojo podcast, which uses scientific research to understand parenting and child development. After attending Berkeley and Yale and following a traditional career path, Jen found that parenting was her toughest challenge yet. She went back to school for a master's in psychology/child development and another in education, and is a Co-Active coach. Jen connects ideas across all of these experiences to help parents transform their relationships with their children.

Inhaltsangabe

Contents:
Preface
Author’s Note
Introduction 
CHAPTER 1: SOCIETAL FORCES In FAMILY LIFE
How White Supremacy, Patriarchy, and Capitalism Affect Our Relationships
with Our Children
CHAPTER 2: JUDGMENTS, REWARDS, AND PUNISHMENTS
They “Work” (But Not the Way We Want Them To)
CHAPTER 3: EMOTIONS AND REGULATION
How to Navigate Tantrums, Meltdowns, and Shutdowns
CHAPTER 4: CHILDREN'S RESISTANCE
A Gift that Shows Us Their Needs
CHAPTER 5: MEETING PARENTS' NEEDS
(Sometimes with Boundaries)
CHAPTER 6: PROBLEM-SOLVING CONVERSATIONS
A Way to Meet Everyone’s Needs
CHAPTER 7: COMMON DIFFICULTIES WITH PROBLEM-SOLVING CONVERSATIONS
And How to Address Each One
CHAPTER 8: LEVELING UP
Applying Your New Skills to the Challenges You Face
AFTERWORD: WE’RE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER
Building Your Village
Summary of Key Ideas
Acknowledgments
Resources
Actions 
List of Needs
List of Feelings When Needs Are Met
List of Feelings When Needs are Unmet
Starter Scripts
Index
Notes