Leslie Spurr Ph. D.

Relax, It's Just Sex (eBook, ePUB)

Understanding Non-Possessive Intimate Relationships

• Format: ePub

Produktbeschreibung

Surveying the many forms of non-possessive intimate relationships, this book explains how these alternative lifestyle arrangements work, psychologically, and describes the benefits and risks for those involved within contemporary contexts such as swinging, threesomes, polyamory, and recreational sex clubs. The thought that one could have sex with outsiders with the consent and support of your spouse or significant other, and still love and make love with your primary partner, is a radical notion for most men and women. And yet, an increasing number of married and unmarried couples are doing just this, and their relationships are flourishing as a result. Relax, It's Just Sex: Understanding Non-Possessive Intimate Relationships examines a relatively new form of intimate relationship that is increasingly popular among contemporary couples and singles. The book introduces the term "non-possessive intimate relationships" and shows from a psychological perspective how these arrangements work, emotionally and cognitively, for the individuals involved. Licensed clinical psychologist and relationship therapist Leslie Spurr, PhD, explores the psychologically issues involved and then takes a close look at various examples of the non-possessive intimate relationship style within several, mostly covert, contexts, in which relationship partners agree to provide each other with the freedom to engage intimately with outsiders. Written in a nontechnical, accessible style, Relax, It's Just Sex uses humor and references to popular culture, including films, novels, and songs, to engage the reader in content that is primarily informative but also entertaining. This important and eye-opening book makes clear the significance and reasons for the growing popularity of the non-possessive intimate relationship phenomenon and explains why and how this "lovestyle" may constitute a sexual revolution.

Produktdetails

• Verlag: Bloomsbury Publishing Inc
• Seitenzahl: 208
• Altersempfehlung: ab 7 Jahre
• Erscheinungstermin: 18. Mai 2017
• Englisch
• ISBN-13: 9798216137788
• Artikelnr.: 68167899

Autorenporträt

Leslie Spurr, PhD is a licensed clinical psychologist and relationship therapist who works with sexually adventurous couples and singles, assisting them to reconcile their atypical lifestyles with the demands and expectations of mainstream society.

Inhaltsangabe

Introduction Chapter 1 Intimate Relationships Exclusivity Relationships
Alternatives to the Traditional Model The Relationship Trajectory A Little
History Agreements Chapter 2 Non-Exclusive Arrangements The Fourth Option
Existential Decisions Advantages, Disadvantages, and Barriers Defining
Terms Chapter 3 Non-Possessive Relationship Issues Mate Guarding Jealousy
Trust Honesty Love Intimacy Attachments Freedom Commitment Choices
Possession Loss Altruism Chapter 4 Yin versus Yang Cognitive Shifts
Morality versus Ethics Personal Qualities Gender Differences: Benefits
Gender Differences: Challenges Chapter 5 Practical Matters Restrictions
Selectivity Communication Secrecy Disclosure to Others
Desirability/Performance Issues Unequal Participation Risk Management
Commonality Characteristics Prerequisites for Non-Possessiveness The
Attraction Chapter 6 Swinging and "The Lifestyle" Recreational Sex Clubs
Hooking-Up Patterns Seduction Consumer Satisfaction Singles with Couples:
Pros and Cons Singles with Couples: Policies and Procedures The Newbie
Experience Orientation Resorts Chapter 7 Digital Double Dating
Social/Sexual Networking Web-Based Coupling First Dates Private Parties
House Parties Socials Dogging Chapter 8 Threesomes, Foursomes, and
Moresomes Three's a Crowd? Ménage Management Playing Mixed Doubles Group
Gropes Orgy Options Chapter 9 Polyamory Loving More Polyfidelity Chapter 10
Friends with Benefits Booty Calls Booty-Calling Perks Chapter 11 The Appeal
of Non-Possessive Intimate Relationships Expanding Awareness Searching for
the Best of Both Worlds Keeping Love Alive Seeking Sexual Sensuousness
Avoiding the Pitfalls of Possessiveness Taming the Rage Reaction Going
Underground in a Vanilla World Tweaking Family Values Navigating Changes
Growing Older Gracefully Coping with Dissolution Pursuing Happiness Loving
Non-Possessively Notes Bibliography Index