Aron Gersh

The Soul Mate Illusion (eBook, ePUB)

• Format: ePub

Produktbeschreibung

This is a psychological non-fiction book teaching some ideas about true love and real intimacy. True love requires both Truth as well as Love, Love as well as Truth. Real love requires both Love and Reality knowing the real other person, not a fantasy of who we want them to be, or imagine them to be, when we are first falling in love. The book teaches us to identify some of the illusions about love which we usually fail to see when we are falling in love (or as the author put it, in and as the title of his previous book, Falling For Love). But it has many ideas too relevant to long-term intimate partnerships. Thus I ask the readers to confront things like: our own narcissism when falling in (or for) love; our need for an over-special uniqueness in their partner; • our need for our connection to be magical (and thus so spontaneous and easy that no conflict should occur, or if it does, that it gets magically resolved); • our need for all our life's problems to be healed "by the method" of falling in love and so on . . . It is based on psychological ideas derived from both psychoanalytic and humanistic traditions and tries to explain that often there are regressive elements in our falling for love. That is to say, there is some recreation of our early mother-child bonding, that creates either a need to recreate such a perfect blissful bond if we sometimes had one, or to find a new perfect blissful bond which heals an imperfect mother-child bond from a difficult past. The previous book, Falling for Love, is possibly more suited to people studying psychology, as it is richer in psychological ideas. I wish you love. Aron Gersh M.A. (I have been a psychotherapist in practice in London, and then, as editor, ran the UK's no.1 alternative psychology magazine, Human Potential, for 7 ¿ years. I have had a lifetime in psychology)

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Produktdetails

• Verlag: Aron Gersh
• Erscheinungstermin: 11. April 2020
• Englisch
• ISBN-13: 9780951611746
• Artikelnr.: 69900919

Autorenporträt

I have been involved in psychology for 45 years now. My studies spanned both South Africa and London (at an American University that functioned there for 10 years, Antioch, Yellow Springs, Ohio a very creative, and respected, alternative university). Training too as a psychotherapist there, I worked as one for 8 years. I was involved with England's top personal growth centre, Quaesitor, for the last 2 years before its closing in 1978. At Quaesitor I did endless forms of group training . . . in the healing of emotional pains, and towards personal growing as a human being, in all ways. I call myself a Humanistic Psychologist, and that includes some orientation towards the theories, but not the practices, of psychoanalysis. I ran England's top personal growth magazine at that time (1988 -1995) as editor and almost everything else. It was called Human Potential Magazine.
In 2001 I was involved in bringing to South Africa The Mankind Project, an organisation dedicated to Men's Issues, to men sharing from their hearts, etc. The first training happened the weekend before the 9/11 Twin Towers disaster, when 40 men went through a challenging weekend about all aspects of "male psychology". This project has grown more than 40 fold since then.
The book is based on deep psychological theory of how we relive the past in the present. I live both in South Africa and in London and am a proud dual citizen of both countries. In 1999 I cycled from the west coast to the east coast of America in 26 days but such cycle-ogical information is not really relevant to this book, though, like the art of loving, it required discipline, courage and patience to achieve that. Generally a content person, I carry a belief that there need be no shortages of love in our lives, if we learn to love others as best as we can.