Dennis C. Ortman

Transcending Post-Infidelity Stress Disorder (eBook, ePUB)

The Six Stages of Healing

• Format: ePub

Produktbeschreibung

Have you been traumatized by infidelity? The phrase "broken heart" belies the real trauma behind the all-too-common occurrence of infidelity. Psychologist Dennis Ortman likens the psychological aftermath of sexual betrayal to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) in its origin and symptoms, including anxiety, irritability, rage, emotional numbing, and flashbacks. Using PTSD treatment as a model, Dr. Ortman will show you, step by step, how to: • work through conflicting emotions • Understand yourself and your partner • Make important life decisions Dr. Ortman sees recovery as a spiritual journey and draws on the wisdom of diverse faiths, from Christianity to Buddhism. He also offers exercises to deepen recovery, such as guided meditations and journaling, and explores heart-wrenchingly familiar case studies of couples struggling with monogamy. By the end of this book, you will have completed the six stages of healing and emerged with a whole heart, a full spirit, and the freedom to love again.

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Produktdetails

• Verlag: Clarkson Potter/Ten Speed
• Seitenzahl: 256
• Erscheinungstermin: 21. September 2011
• Englisch
• ISBN-13: 9780307807809
• Artikelnr.: 38198068

Autorenporträt

DENNIS ORTMAN is a psychologist in private practice in Detroit, Michigan. A Catholic priest for fourteen years, Dr. Ortman has been married for nineteen years. He is the author of The Dually Diagnosed and The Dual Diagnosis Recovery Sourcebook. THE AUTHOR SCOOP If you had to boil the message of Transcending Post-Infidelity Stress Disorder down to one sentence, what would it be? If you have suffered from an infidelity and are consumed by rage, read this book to find relief, forgiveness, and new life. Who is your hero? If I could spend a day talking with anyone, living or dead, it would be Abraham Lincoln. I admire him as a man who displayed steadfastness and wisdom guiding our country in its most trying time. Have you ever met a famous person? I spent five years studying in Rome and met many Church dignitaries, bishops, cardinals, and even the Pope. But none impressed me more than Mother Teresa. Her love, gentleness, and determination radiated from her tiny sub-five foot frame. What's the farthest you've ever traveled? I spent a summer in India working in the slums of Calcutta. That was my longest journey geographically, emotionally, and spiritually. Surprisingly, what impressed me most was not the desperate poverty, but the deep contentment and spirituality of many of the people I met. Where were you when you found out that Transcending Post-Infidelity Stress Disorder would be published? I was on a golf course in Florida when I received the call that my manuscript was accepted. After that, my golf game went south, and my buddies won some money. If you were alone on a desert island, what book would you take? If I were alone on a desert island, I would choose the Bible as my constant companion because of the inexhaustible wisdom it contains. A second book would be The Complete Works of William Shakespeare because of their poetic elegance and astute psychological perceptiveness.

Inhaltsangabe

CONTENTS
 
Acknowledgments   ix
Preface   xi
Introduction   1
 
Part One. Infidelity as Trauma   11
 
1. Symptoms of Post-Infidelity Stress Disorder (PISD)   12
   Imprisoned in Hurt and Rage
 
2. Differing Responses of Men and Women to Infidelity   30
   The Many Faces of PISD
 
3. Those Most Vulnerable to Trauma   40
   A Heart Close to Breaking
 
4. Adult Children of Unfaithful Parents   55
   The Pain Goes On
 
Part Two. Steps to Recovery from the Trauma   67
 
5. Stage 1: Calming the Emotional Storm
   Finding a Safe Haven within Yourself   68
6. Stage 2: Understanding Your Unfaithful Partner
   Why? . . . Why Me?   90
7. Stage 3: Seeking Self-Understanding
   The Truth Will Set You Free   113
8. Stage 4: Making a Wise Decision
   To Be or Not to Be . . . with Your Partner   138
9. Stage 5: Embracing Self-Forgiveness
   Freeing Yourself to Love Again   163
10. Stage 6: Forgiving Your Unfaithful Partner
   A Healing Journey   183
Epilogue. A Broken Heart Becomes an Open Heart   209
 
Appendix. Eight Exercises to Deepen Recovery   219
 
Notes   229
Suggested Reading   233
Index   236